Friday, June 8, 2012

the*Winner.


..life always has ups and downs ..A women goes through many things in life ... now you must be thinking why women ? not men...
the reason I said women cuz she is the one who leaves her family and comes to a new family and house where she has to prove her ability and always at giving end ,,mom ,daughter ,sister or wife.
some girls are very strong and come out as winners against odds .. they have lot of patience ... 
they are determined and they keep trying ..keeping a low profile focused on their work jus keeping all negative thoughts at bay.
I met her in one wedding ..she is an top executive in a company .. I had heard about her before but dint knew until I met her.
...standing quietly in a business suit ..( I think she jus arrived from airport)..I said "hi" to her ...
she is my aunts friend .. they studied together in india ..then got married and came to US... she had masters degree in english...back home...
when she came to US it was a whole lot new atmosphere ..and then living with in-laws who were not very humble and always expected one or the other thing from her .. cooking ,cleaning  and then keeping the family happy...proving to be a good daughter -in law...
I came to know they gave her hard time at home ... and sometimes situations are not in favor too..
Then she tried to get an entry level job in one of the IT firms ... it was to make an extra income and get a break from home.. fortunately the family agreed...
She was very new ,hard to get an American accent .. so it took her some time to adjust on this temporary position( the lady had gone on maternity leave) she was on customer support..
... in few months she picked the accent and it worked really well... they moved her to another group ..and gave her some training in IT ...improving her skills... 
She showed some good results .. always quite and focused on work ..at home she took care of everything ..cooking in the morning ..goin to work and helping everyone ... after a year or so the company  told her to start with college some courses to get a better position in the management ... they would help her in college tuitions  and all.. 
She started with college ,working part-time  and then living up-to everybody expectation at home...so life became even tougher but this thought of making big was her motivation in life and it would be better with little more income plus it gave her some identity and some importance at work.
she finished her college and she was in management ..after almost four to five yrs of her work. ..she was at managerial position ..But there is one thing about this women I would say here perseverance and her dignity she never left ... she was handling major programmes now,
... There were few courses she did again some kind of programming she learned .. a constant urge to upgrade her knowledge and skills ..But now she had a strong footage in that company ... in few yrs she was at directorial position ... 
At home things took a turn ..mom -in law was surprised by her confidence and hubby who was doin some business in real-estate took advantage of her contacts and made business flourish..
she was now very successful  in her career ... Then came a major turning point when another  company offered her a president position ..by now she was so well versed had her hands on major decisions so she made a counter offer of some percentage of her shares in the company ..which they agreed and now in California she is at one of the highest positions ... in the company
today her kids are on a verge of getting married ... a daughter as lawyer is hired by her own company and son as engineer is also working there...
in -laws cant stop praising her ( same egative people)..she settled all her relatives in India and abroad ..helped everyone financially ..even friends ... 
today when I see her I can't imagine this was a simple girl from a small city made it so big and such a pride for the family ...
do we still wish we had sons? 
girls are no less jus need an opportunity ..I am sharing with you all this because those who are disheartened please take a break and go to work may be an opportunity is waiting for you.
GOD BLESS!













11 comments:

tariqMian said...

Hi Harman,
-----there you go------
when you work your way up with full devotion and motivation, you can achieve anything.
The subject matter of your story started from scratch but knew very well that "sky is the limit."

Certainly, she is a role model for the entire community.

Thanks for sharing such a motivational peace.

Rachna said...

Thanks for sharing such an inspiring story.

Jack said...

Harman,

May God bless her with all the happiness. She is sure a role model.

Take care

Renu said...

she is a true woman..see how she tackled everything in life and came out winner..Hats off to her!

Today harman I see more boys suffering than man, because they have to face two militant people.mother and wife, and really they are living a miserable life.

Irfanuddin said...

An inspiring personality for sure....such people certainly can be motivational for many in the society.....!!!

Harman said...

@ tariq
thanks ... she is role model and to my mind girls need more tolerance ..which is lacking these days!

Harman said...

@rachan ..thanks ..hope it gives some inspiration to women out there!

Harman said...

@jack!
true ..thanks uncle!
she is my aunts friend n that's how I cam to know her story from my aunt!

Harman said...

@renu ..hmm
maybe you r right ..but the fact is every individual need s to strong and patient ..it takes time ..Rome was not built in a day!

Harman said...

@irfan ..thanks!

Bikramjit said...

Hard work pays always ... Good luck to her and may she raise even more higher

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