Wednesday, September 14, 2011

A patient listener..

....Going through a discussion on tv..I was taken aback when..the whole big group were talking to themselves and the host was quite not knowing what to do...A group of adults behaving like kids! or should I say ..kids are better then adults ..they at-least raise their hands if they have a question...
...Most of the time ..in gatherings I see people wanting to jump in the discussion not even knowing the real cause of discussion...that itch is there all the time.
its not only offensive but creates an ugly scene ...shows up the personality ..these kinda people are generally very talkative and other wise very shallow...its jus they want the whole discussion in their hand...
..its an insult to other people sitting there discussing an issue..when one jus jumps out of his/her turn and tries to be Jack of all Arts... 
imagine if you are in the shoes of the host?
You show respect and honour to a person when you’re listening.....It also demonstrates you think what they’re saying is important... You may be validating the person by listening to them.  Did you ever think you may be building someone’s self-confidence by listening?  You could be..... Listening is also beneficial for building a credible reputation.  The more you listen, the more others will listen to what you have to say.  Those are just a few reasons why listening is important..
Have you ever noticed that the words listen and silent are spelled with the same letters? Perhaps this is no accident, because in many ways they mean the same thing..

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24 comments:

A said...

We lack listening skills. Everyone wants to talk in the USA - same in meetings too, But unfortunately people who talk loud and manage to make sure everyone else is not talking - they rise higher

Renu said...

In women's groups I have seen this many times and most of the women are talking and none is listening:)

A S said...

hii Harman dear!

i think precisely the same..i loved this post :)

and thanks for the wonderful quiz!

Asma Khan said...

Sometimes if we would just take time to listen to people, we could help initiate a healing process in their lives.

Nice article.... :)

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Uma said...

i lose patience when the discussion turns boring.. and some people lose relevance as well..

Bikramjit said...

I love that line
Listen - SILENT

realised it now first time ...

yes we should listen to others as we wud want them to listen to us too

Bikram's

Raj - Only name sake !! said...

Hi harman nice post :)

FInally I am back and will be regular!!

Harman said...

@A..well Scenario might be different ...in each company...
And A people who talk loud or try to be smart in meetings...do not rise..it may be momentary ..but ultimately...there is down fall in career graph!

Harman said...

@Renu..
I agree..Womens have a very bad habit of not listening..jus ..talkin and talking..

Harman said...

..@AS thanks :)
we hope to see you more on our blog.

Harman said...

@ASMA...thanks..
yes listening is..part of healing...process!

Harman said...

@UMA..lolz..
it also depends on discussions..I agree!

Harman said...

@bick...yes..its strange both have same words..
and go hand in hand
Listen - Silent

Harman said...

@Gaurav..thanks..
it helps to get connected through our blogs!

KParthasarathi said...

Very true.It is a common trait to interrupt people in conversations.Listening skill is to be cultivated for better communication and undersatnding.
A very nicely written post.

ZigggaaZigga said...

I think being a host takes a lot of courage and a lot of skills. I mean not just anyone can be a host and should be prepared for anything ! From an ancheor to a TV host... @ times during guest appearances or a discussion things can deff. get out of hand.. I mean, when someone's ego is hurt or they feel like they're being targeted on stage they start blabbling! LOL

Rachna said...

OH yes, it is a fish market when adults get together. There is so much noise, people cut in, start their own conversations, 2 or 3 talking together or a few monopolizing all conversations. How to listen is an important skill that most of us lack.

Stranger in a Strange Land said...

It's a North American thing and I agree with you. Disrespectful and not kind to the host.

Kindest regards,
Mike

Mishi said...

lolz..I hope the talk show was not on some pakistani channel..was it? ;p

yeah I agree with you..par what to do..in our part of the globe and in our part of the media , this has become somehow their trade mark!

Haddock said...

I think in TV discussions they are told beforehand that they are not supposed to talk out of turn.

Alka Gurha said...

TV debates have become slanging matches of scoring points.
The Indian TV hosts seem to enjoy the high decibel levels as it garners higher TRPs

kavita said...

I dislike this ' listen to me i am much more intelligent and know all' attitude displayed by anchors as well as the other participants.

Kunwar Kusumesh said...

Not only in TV shows but in any important meeting,you will always find some persons trying to hijack the issue and mould the discussion in the direction they desire just to highlight themselves in the crowed.Such elements should not be paid much attention.

Jack said...

Harman,

A good listener will prove to be a wise speaker too.

Take care