Thursday, September 1, 2011

Aging..



Aging is a slow process.. which helps humans to accept it by default...Its sometimes scary to see with age comes the general health and behavioural problems..Aging should be graceful  with dignity...it demands respect from every other person..especially from younger people.
With age there are  people who  become either too talkative or complaining ...not necessarily mother nature has mercy on everyone,which is sad.  ..life comes to a full circle with an old age.
let us pray...
O lord... thou you know me better then myself and As I  am growing older and will be finally old one day ...keep me away from being too talkative and specially a fatal  habit of thinking of something I must say on every subject...

Release me from craving to straighten out everybody else's affair...make me thoughtful,but not moody,helpful but not bossy...with my my vast store of wisdom its a pity not to use them all ...But thou ... you know the the best where to use or be quite...keep my only few genuine friends in the end...

keep my mind free from recital of endless details ..gimme wings to get to the point to seal my lips on my many aches and pains,they might increase but rehearsing them is becoming greater as years go by...teach me the glorious lesson that occasionally I may be mistaken ...

Keep me reasonably sweet ...thou I don't wannabe a Saint..someone hard to live with   ..Extract all possible fun out of life..as there are so many funny things around us which I don't want to miss...
You had taught me everything that I know But  I am still a layman in many ways...

50 comments:

A said...

Well aging is not that slow. It happens very fast in my opinion :)))

Time flies too fast.

I wish I don't age.

Mostly I have seen people becoming bitter and complaining......partly due to physical health and partly due to lack of self esteem as most Indians do not have much to when they age...we don't develop any hobbies.

I started blogging etc. so that I can stay sane as I age.

As usual you picked up a sensitive subject and written politely.

Rachna said...

In our cultures, we are taught to respect the elders. But, there are times when certain cranky elders don't seem to deserve. Aging with grace is appealing.

Shadow of my life said...

nice words!!! how are you Harman?

Renu said...

wow.in a very sweet language you have pointed out all the sins of ageing:)

bollywoodstylediaries said...

How have you been? Lot of catching up to do!! Its great to be bag and I missed u all a lot too..

Stranger in a Strange Land said...

Hello dear:

With age comes wisdom. A broken body is easier to deal with than a broken mind or disconnect from one's Soul. Don't believe all the hype about old age. There are some real positives with growing older.

I for one look forward to it. Life is a great trip even with all the BS and stupidity.

And aren't those Saints a pain in the ass, not so easy to manupulate or deceive? No fun at all.

Take care dear,
Mike
ps: There's a lot of craziness in the air right now. Just something to deal with at this time.

Uma said...

aging is another phase of life.. each one reacts to it in his/her own way..

Thinking said...

hmm...Sine we don't know what lies ahead it alway scare us...

Nice Post !

http://thinkinglifeandyou.blogspot.com/

Gaurav said...

sometimes old people really annoy us.. But we should accept than with aging come a lot of changes.

Nice post!

Bikramjit said...

Amen to that harman..
I dont beleive in aging though.. its jsut a number as long as you have hjealth and ur heart is going .. it does not matter if one is 60 or 30 .. I still do things i did when i was 15 or 20 ..

You take care and smile ..

Bikram's

dr.antony said...

Yes,let us all Amen together,Bikram.
Gracefully getting old and not regretting it,is the essence.Some people are afraid to get old and they make lives miserable for their own children.

kanthi said...

One should be wiser enough and pre plan as such to make ageing a peaceful and happier one with no burdens,and by cultivating hobbies,and not grumbling and interfering in each and every thing of the children,until unless they are been asked for..

Babli said...

I feel that age doesn't matter at all. A person should always be young in his heart. Though we cannot stop our age but we should not feel that we are growing old. Aged people are very caring,loving and lots of things to learn from them as they are experienced. I am enthusiastic as I was during my school days and same as now also. Wonderful post.

kavita said...

Very nice thoughts Harman.Growing up with age is important ,i hope i do that.

Santosh Kumar said...

Very appealing prayer to God. God bless you.

Aging is natural process, we have to accept it. We should love to age with grace.

We should be involved with physical activities to slow the aging process. And do not let the brain start thinking about getting old...one more thing , start hearing "18 till I die" or similar songs daily as daily dose of motivation and mind training.

The Beautifier said...

A very thoughtful post, Harman...aging is something unpreventable as well as irreversible.....ppl who age gracefully are admired by everyone xoxo

Kunwar Kusumesh said...

Everybody has to face aging because of being a natural process of invisible gradual body cells decay.Aged persons are generally found quite loving and caring for their youngers and youngers also give proper respect as taught in indian culture.Exceptions are not taken as examples in any case.Your article reflects that your experience is otherwise and hence your perception is otherwise in this respect which is of utter surprise to me.

Haddock said...

Ageing gracefully is something all can't do.
But then we have to accept the old with patience and love (and try to understand them)

Haddock said...

Ageing gracefully is something all can't do.
But then we have to accept the old with patience and love (and try to understand them)

pRasad said...

Nice post ... I feel aged people (those who are above 60) tend to get kind. They want people to talk to them..share their feelings..& respect them.

I personally feel, aging is fast process..In our daily college, office, tensions we don't even get to know when years passed by..

I liked the ending - "I am still a layman in many ways"..

R. Ramesh said...

good post ya..ageing? hey i am not participating here..leme wory abt it when i get old..:)

Harman said...

@A..okkkk..
But do we get old ...frm heart too??
we shld not ...our thoughts and behaviour should not show our age..
..Blogging is to keep bsy..there are many other ways..to keep yourself dignified!

..A sometimes you sound like Senior citizen..C;mmon now let us know how old you are!!
wht say :)

Harman said...

@rachna..I agree..
Cranky due to health problems..complaining due to attitude!
it should n be there!

Harman said...

@shadow of my life..
I am fine..how r u dear!
read your blog after long time...
keep writing we can stay connected!

Harman said...

@renu...really..
Sins ...??
well cant say much...jus wrote what I felt!

Harman said...

@bollywood ..hey ..so queen is back!
:)
love you and missed your blog a lot..
it seems good time you took!

Harman said...

@Mike..
So well explained ...very true,, Hope Mike Stays dat way in oll gold age lolz..
nice tips.. whts keeping ya bsy??
thanks for lovely comment!

Harman said...

@UMa..So true..
another phase.. and different for every human!

Harman said...

@gaurav..
its different with every person..Some old people are too good! but some are difficult to adjust!

Harman said...

@thinking..yes true..lets hope we all bloggers age gracefully..
lolz!

Harman said...

@bick..
Hey how could you think yourself be fifteen>.
be mature..behave like an adult..lolz
Age shows up dear even if you have young heart..
the whole idea is to be graceful and age appropriate ...

Harman said...

@Doc..
Agree Sir!:)

Harman said...

@kanthi..
so very true!
Best comment!

Harman said...

@babli..yes..thanks..
I agree!it has plus points too...

Harman said...

@kavita..true!
same here!

Harman said...

@beautifier..
So true-dear!
aging gracefully requires..control on temperament and adjustable nature!

Harman said...

@kusum ...
Sir..I never had any problems or any bad experiences as speculated But it was a thought...
old people are respectful and loving ,wise and helpful..I jus wanna say it shld be like that!

Harman said...

@Haddock..very true!
its a difficult time ..it requires ..grace!

Harman said...

@prasad..may be..I agree!

Harman said...

@santosh!
true!I agree!

Harman said...

@ramesh..
Boss even if you dont participate you are still heading towards no outlet..
lolz!
:)

Shri Krishna said...

Good and Interesting thoughts...I can Feel the Feelings.

A said...

@Harman,

Physical age is one aspect. In my opinion one does get old in heart too and ONE SHOULD.

DO you think it is acceptable for a married guy with kids to go after teenage girls because he does not grow up with an excuse "my heart is still young".

Different people grow at different pace. Personal situations make a lot of difference. It does not matter what is my physical age but I have seen misery, pain, helplessness, agony of old people as far as my memory goes...basically from childhood.

I confined my comments to Indians living in the USA when I talk about hobbies. When the children grow up, a large number of Indians in the USA do not know how to spend time - main time pass party - that you cannot do when you are old.

In general when we talk about old people - once they are not earning money - they are considered worthless - once heroes suddenly become zero - that makes them bitter. Bad physical multiplies their worthlessness.

You don't really want me to get started on it.

It is a sensitive subject without any solution.

We should just wish we don't get old. There is no way we will be happy when we are old. That is the fact of life - accept it.

Harman said...

@A..very well explained...
Dignified Means age appropriate ...
How about your age ..you dint answer dat?

A said...

@Harman,

My age is secret :))) I am old enough to be wise. Young enough to play with my daughter.

A said...

Harman,

Sometimes I think I was more mature (or old and bitter) when I was in school or in college...I behaved like a real old man at that time...

Harman said...

@A..nice A...
Your last answer Waz like indian JALEBI
lolz
:)
wht say!

Shabby said...

this is one of life's great lessons! we need to accept it!
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Harman said...

@shabby...Very well said..
To accept is the thing we should learn ...and keep in mind..its like rehearsing...

Harman said...

@ shri krishna
..thanks for you r comment ..
hope to see ya more on my blog.