Tuesday, January 4, 2011

wealth and happiness...

 
Wealth in monetary terms is one important factor to run life ,one should be self sufficient and not live on others mercy,if you have,you can enjoy and as well spare a thought for others..but if you don't have money at all its like a curse living on mercy of others and looking for a new hope everyday..
I always believe that wealth if in moderate quantity can bring happiness and fulfill most of the desires except the princely treatments but if in abundance this wealth is curse...trust me on that!
...happiness is a very subjective matter... what makes one happy might not be for the others..its only inner peace brought about by self acceptance can bring happiness in real sense...I don't believe in collective happiness..if there is such a thing then it could be pronounced in some group or society and not on others..
I have always written for women rights in most of my blogs...where a women suffers from one or the other problem...and trying to highlight the problem areas..
  Women's right to parents property...
its always a right of every kid to inherit what their parents have ,but the law equality lacks here..

The Indian Succession Act, 1925, everyone is entitled to equal inheritance, except Hindus, Sikhs, Jains, Buddhists and Muslims. Under this act, the daughter of a person dying intestate would be entitled only to one-fourth of the son’s share, or Rs. 5,000/- (Sthree Dhana), whichever is lesser. 
 for equal rights in property the will has to be amended as per the willingness of the other family members...

usually a girl or female in the family has no right on any property unless there is lot of wealth ..the property goes to the sons or otherwise decided...
The female is given whatever was there in her wedding and as per the parents ...but nothing unless a will is made by the deceased...

 discussing this point cause one of my friends here in US ,her dad has some family disputes between a father and a son ..where more then half of the major properties in India are given to son but the leftover wealth, they wish to give them to their daughters...but the son kicked out the parents and they were living with the daughter...now they have gone back to India in Chandigarh where they own  a house and some properties..
The will can be be written again as per the wish BUT then conflict is for ever ,,,usually the Boys in the family respect their sisters if property is distributed is in their favor otherwise the brother sister relationship is broken forever...its out of mutual respect the daughters of the family leave their right and give more weightage   to the relationship..which is valued...
I would like to say ..why? when the parents are same why is this biased?and what have guys to loose in this?I mean they will get equally what their wives bring inn if that's the case!why not equal rights in property and whatsoever without any will or law!it should be understood by a common man!
Giving a property right to a girl is like giving her a secured future and some bank balance before she gets married ..she has her money too  if the husband doesn't support her...its pathetic to see the family in court fighting against each other... this wealth which was happiness one time is Curse now!!
its should be a law to distribute wealth equally among all kids without any discrimination  and should be understood by everyone unless anyone is willing to leave their portion to their sibling...no more compulsions or misunderstandings,,,it should be clear ...
Universal Queens
Indian women have not just made their mark on earth but they have engraved their name in the whole universe by flying to space. Kalpana Chawla, who was the member of Colombia Space Shuttle, which exploded on its way back, was the first Indian women astronaut who visited space station. And now following on her footsteps another women of Indian origin Sunita Williams has become the second one to be the member of International Space Station crew.

Indian women have mastered anything and everything which a woman can dream of. But she still has to go a long way to achieve equal status in the minds of Indian men...

which is YET to Come!!!

10 comments:

AS said...

I am for empowerment of women. They should be given equal rights. They should have a right to property, equivalent of the boy.
In Indian context, this is more relevant for when a girl gets married, she is in a way very vulnerable. If the economics are right, then it can help a lot, and the marriage can be on a even keel.
I do not agree, that if inheritance right is given to the girls, then it will destroy the brother/sister relationship. I think it is a matter of setting the right expectations. A relationship is much more than money ..

STRANGER said...

Blessed are those who have only daughters.

Bikramjit said...

Very true harman.. it is the truth.. I have seen this happen a few times...

another problem is that out grandparents or elders in those days had this idea of second marrige and that is another big problem when it comes to property division...

but i do agree that it shud be equal amount.. when my dad passed away the property etc all have been equally divided between us .. and thank god there has been no problem otherise we know how it is ...

Blogger Girl said...

I agree, children (no matter son or daughter) should have equal rights to their parent's property. Although, I also believe that you need to rightfully earn this right by being a good son or daughter... if you kick out your parents and then claim the right on their property, that is not happening!! Property goes to the person who respects and takes care of their parents...

now having said that.. I don't support people who forcefully keep their parents with them to get the money!? These things were different in old times but in today's world when people are more educated (socially and literally) it is shameful to see people treating their parents, brother, and sisters badly for MONEY!!

And I'm even ashamed to admit this that most of these issues aren't created by the brothers but their wives!! Look around yourselves these days and every women is trying to be the lead actress in Balaji Telefilms Serials!! Everyone is trying to snatch other's share because in their twisted head it seems logical and fair to do so...

We need better laws to protect victims of this cruelty!! Especially old parents who are then left to suffer in old age homes (that is if they are lucky) or in some ashram in India!!

A said...

Inheritance is very complex. Equal rights for daughters and sons is a must. On the same time, there should be a good system to execute this law. A lot of time even some sons do not get any inheritance.

Uma said...

nowadays even females get their share of property..
earlier dowry was considered her share, its not the case anymore..

Harman said...

@bikram...its good for you bikram ..as per "will" you have mentioned,since you are not married its divided equally ..otherwise its always a problem since all family members have different opinions either wives are not willing or son-in -laws are interested for equal division...its creates a rift in the family!
Another issue that you had discussed is very much common..in older days they had two wives for property sake..(my mom had discussed with me once)which was disgusting..but it was accepted by community..
things have changed in villages too but still needs lot of improvement!

@stranger..very well said..its a Blessing to have a baby girl!

@UMA...women do get share ..but how much?? half of the property ??...no!!never, its not the case..might be an exception..go through the laws under succession act 1925 jus one fourth of the share girls are entitled.otherwise there is a rift in the family..For sure..that's the Indian Scenario!!!
In villages its even worst!!

@A ..sons will get whatever parents have its an understood phenomenon ...no ifs and buts in that..only females get whatever is decided by parents or law!!


@blogger girl..
Very well said.. appreciate it..All the sons who throw their parents out of the house jus needs be thrown out of the property too..just a kick they need on their BUTT...its actually the wife (daughter-in-law)here which plays a role of witch jus like wicked indian show...
Same thing happened with my friends parents too..the DIL wants everything by herself and has filed a case in court...the Son has no respect for parents the day he came to know that rest of the property will go to daughters he had no intention of keeping them...its was that ugly..
All of our friends knew about this how Uncle and aunty has been harassed..its pathetic
People are very happy when they have sons..its considered as blessing...But to the future it might be curse to have these kind of sons!!you never know what might show up in years to come!
thanks for your lovely comment!!

STRANGER said...

Thanks Harman, I've 2 daughters and I don't care for what backward people say, I go for what is just and fair. Girls love their parents more than boys do.

Jai Shri Krishna

STRANGER said...

Thanks Harman, I've 2 daughters and I don't care for what backward people say, I go for what is just and fair. Girls love their parents more than boys do.

Jai Shri Krishna

Harman said...

@stranger..yes girls love their parents more then sons..their love is unbiased...its natural..
tc..