Saturday, November 27, 2010

Social Networking

Just a few years ago, the idea of an online social network was revolutionary. While the Web has always provided a way for people to make connections with one another, social networking sites made it easier than ever to find old friends and make new ones. Today, it's rare to find someone who hasn't at least heard of Face book, My Space, Twitter or one of a hundred other social network....
you must be wondering why I picked up this topic?.... Its sad...when you see divorces or split ups due to these networking sites...every other person is there on these sites...the maturity matters though....
one of our friends got married this year .. ...if you see my earlier posts (marriage?)...I had mentioned..but it would be in this ugly way...(this marriage was through a matrimonial site)
The girl was already dating somebody on one of these sites ...she was ...smart ,educated and very pleasant person as known by her friends..when they told me to see the girl...I went to FB and checked her profile... I was surprised  to see such a good looking person still "SINGLE"...why?? I told people at home...they looked at me and said.."you should have been in some detective agency"I had my doubts....its not possible....(you know at home how it works at home if wise person like me gives  advice .....)anyways..
everybody was very happy,,,,boy is from a rich family...girl is from a mediocre background.....nice wedding......the girl was something too "NICE"...everybody was happy and so was I...may be I was wrong!!(I really felt bad at that time what I thought of her)
this girl within two months of marriage glued to FB all the time...and not interested in marital life ...then we heard some problems within few months of marriage...she kicked out everyone ..all relatives from her friends list...all the relatives had some suspicion as to what was going on......
Everybody thought it takes time to settle and  understand each other..but case was different she had a boyfriend before and had some arguments with him ,jus for the heck of showing him his place,how she settles with a rich guy...and make him jealous she did it!!....and now few months after marriage she is still keeping contacts with him...then one day she told her husband the "boyfriend story" and she wants to go back....(its weird)...without anybody's knowledge she hired a lawyer and went inn for divorce sending it to the parents(in-laws)..we tried talking to her mom and bro(dad is no more)...but this girl abused her mom like anything for ruining her life...
now the worst part... demanding lot of money for out of the court settlement with all the jewelery which was given to her...which is in hundred thousand dollars...and then she plans to get back to the original boyfriend.....
 They are heading for divorce...
.....a perfect example of greediness and third grade upbringing....(SAD!!)
now getting back to social networking sites...
“Positive and negative things can spread through these networks", but on balance if there’s too much negative stuff flowing through a network....these sites might dissolve in coming years...

I have seen...fifteen years of marriage going into shambles as the guy was dating someone on FB....now I see the wife ...with kids alone....
Are these networking sites have so much influence on our personal lives? are we showing our desperation in this way? many of the IDS are  fake...

I usually see during parties or get-together ..Mom s of teenage girls going berserk...as the study(room)has all facebook time goin on...
 I see so much personal information and pictures updated everyday ..every kinda weird party or weekend celebration pictures are posted...some ladies and men without fail on FB ...some updates regularly....even if there is a tussle at home it will be on face book too....everybody knows whats going on at others place....

Everything has its pros and cons and every person has its maturity level....of thinking and responding ,talking about the adults...its pathetic to see breaking a relationship or a marriage for somebody on facebook whom you have just met a month ago and not even knowing about the real personality how could somebody without knowing get carried away.....

are these social networking sites meant for these purposes??

10 comments:

A said...

Harman,

Depressing story. But I am not sure if we can blame FB for it. FB just provided a means to communicate fast..that is all. Heard similar stories from non computer era too. But FB did make it easy for them.

Regardless what you wrote is good information to have to closely monitor what kids are doing on computer...

Bikramjit said...

It happens and its not just FB.. Todays world people are not what they show they are ...

Relationships dont mean anything anymore.. its the case of
yeh nahin to woh sahi
Woh nahin to koi aur sahi

ANd kids with computers dangeroous, I have recently been into one such household scenario and my friend asked me to set up parental views and stuff like that .. casue the kids got hooked on to wierd websites ...

These days you never know .. Stopped at 68 year old man in a car with a 19year old girl, in a small dark road, when asked he was there just to TALK.. the girl was shivering in fear.. I have the word IDIOT or STUPID or MUG written on my forehead I thought..


so the world has gone to devils..

Blogger Girl said...

Pretty disturbing to see people getting hooked on to these "Hi-Tech Networking Sites" I mean, is the world really gone this desperate?! Whatever happened to regular old-fashioned networking where you met friends and family over a cup of coffee or a nice meal? Where you sent out yearly updates through a nice letter, or a card, letting them know of new additions to family, or they moved, or they bought a new house, or the kids are going to university??!!

Do we really need to send the message out there to everyone about our family issues?! I thought privacy was a huge concern these days? And you are right, I see a lot of people posting their minutest (not to mention stupidest)details on FB as their status updates... Does the world really care if you ate a Kit-Kat today in the morning instead of breakfast?! I mean, really?

The story you mentioned is really sad... I don't know how she could do this to her husband and his family and not to mention her own family?! and the boy-friend, I'm sorry to say, has to be equally (if not more) stupid to trust her and believe that she won't do this to him one day as well... girls like her aren't stable in any relationship... they just feed on suckers to achieve their own selfish motives!!

Really hard to believe people from Indian background doing these things?! Whatever happened to family values and ethics?!

dr.antony said...

It doesn't really matter what they are meant for.Every single thing can be used or misused...even relationships.I have seen some of my friends tracing their long lost friends through such net works.It really can make you happy. I have also seen an innocent girl,who was the daughter of a friend of mine,got brain washed and eloped with a boy,who had nothing in common.
we are also in to one such network.But then,one can be careful enough to monitor activities at home.
These are all 'side effects' of technology.

Raj - Only name sake !! said...

MY god!!
Everything has pros and cons. Using something in the better way give better results. In this case this is just Pathetic!!

Demanding money.
Whomsoever is that girl her life will be pathetic! Money doesnt matter if you are not moral enough that you will surely suffer.

AbhiLaSH RuHeLa said...

ufff... wat to say...

Harman said...

@A..yes..FB makes things easy....

@Bikram..i agree...you jus cant believe ,,that a seventy year old man with twenty year old girl...I usually tell my husband ..must be daughter :)
his reply is as always...ya sure...for ur eyes to believe only!!
world has all sought or demons..no doubt..
@Bloggergirl...YES..dear..those good old days are no more.....people have lost family values..Money is considered to be God...this girl I am talking about in my blog has no values..she played with someones emotions now dicthing him wants to extract some money before goin to previous one!!
Face book updates are funny!!kit kat for breakfast..LOL

@Dr..Anthony ..yes..kids should be monitored..

@Abhilash...Buddy...life has lots of ups and downs..but never get into this situation..personalities are deceptive!

The knife said...

Interesting thought. Blogging's social networking too. I guess these are the challenges of our times.

Harman said...

@knife..first of all thanks...for visiting my blog ..yes..blogging I would consider something challenging and an overall improvement of personality...

Stranger said...

Hi..FB is not the culprit. FB just makes it easier for people with stale minds. Such people if not for FB will run off with the neighbor.

There are so many people who use FB just to keep in touch with friends in real life but lives far apart. Like you, I too dont like the habit of putting everything on FB and twitter.

Like A said, we need to monitor what our kids do on computer. That is why me and they have same password.... now dont blame me for a control freak...lol..