Saturday, November 27, 2010

Social Networking

Just a few years ago, the idea of an online social network was revolutionary. While the Web has always provided a way for people to make connections with one another, social networking sites made it easier than ever to find old friends and make new ones. Today, it's rare to find someone who hasn't at least heard of Face book, My Space, Twitter or one of a hundred other social network....
you must be wondering why I picked up this topic?.... Its sad...when you see divorces or split ups due to these networking sites...every other person is there on these sites...the maturity matters though....
one of our friends got married this year .. ...if you see my earlier posts (marriage?)...I had mentioned..but it would be in this ugly way...(this marriage was through a matrimonial site)
The girl was already dating somebody on one of these sites ...she was ,educated and very pleasant person as known by her friends..when they told me to see the girl...I went to FB and checked her profile... I was surprised  to see such a good looking person still "SINGLE"...why?? I told people at home...they looked at me and said.."you should have been in some detective agency"I had my doubts....its not possible....(you know at home how it works at home if wise person like me gives  advice .....)anyways..
everybody was very happy,,,,boy is from a rich family...girl is from a mediocre background.....nice wedding......the girl was something too "NICE"...everybody was happy and so was I...may be I was wrong!!(I really felt bad at that time what I thought of her)
this girl within two months of marriage glued to FB all the time...and not interested in marital life ...then we heard some problems within few months of marriage...she kicked out everyone ..all relatives from her friends list...all the relatives had some suspicion as to what was going on......
Everybody thought it takes time to settle and  understand each other..but case was different she had a boyfriend before and had some arguments with him ,jus for the heck of showing him his place,how she settles with a rich guy...and make him jealous she did it!!....and now few months after marriage she is still keeping contacts with him...then one day she told her husband the "boyfriend story" and she wants to go back....(its weird)...without anybody's knowledge she hired a lawyer and went inn for divorce sending it to the parents(in-laws)..we tried talking to her mom and bro(dad is no more)...but this girl abused her mom like anything for ruining her life...
now the worst part... demanding lot of money for out of the court settlement with all the jewelery which was given to her...which is in hundred thousand dollars...and then she plans to get back to the original boyfriend.....
 They are heading for divorce...
.....a perfect example of greediness and third grade upbringing....(SAD!!)
now getting back to social networking sites...
“Positive and negative things can spread through these networks", but on balance if there’s too much negative stuff flowing through a network....these sites might dissolve in coming years...

I have seen...fifteen years of marriage going into shambles as the guy was dating someone on I see the wife ...with kids alone....
Are these networking sites have so much influence on our personal lives? are we showing our desperation in this way? many of the IDS are  fake...

I usually see during parties or get-together ..Mom s of teenage girls going the study(room)has all facebook time goin on...
 I see so much personal information and pictures updated everyday ..every kinda weird party or weekend celebration pictures are posted...some ladies and men without fail on FB ...some updates regularly....even if there is a tussle at home it will be on face book too....everybody knows whats going on at others place....

Everything has its pros and cons and every person has its maturity level....of thinking and responding ,talking about the adults...its pathetic to see breaking a relationship or a marriage for somebody on facebook whom you have just met a month ago and not even knowing about the real personality how could somebody without knowing get carried away.....

are these social networking sites meant for these purposes??

Thursday, November 25, 2010

happy thanks giving !

Thanksgiving is not just the festival of America but there is more to it than it being called just a “Harvest Festival”. It is said that contentment is the greatest happiness in life so it is always right to thank all those who have been responsible for what we are today. Thanksgiving is the festival of remembering people who sacrificed their lives for our well being.....
Most important part of the Thanksgiving is the family meal in every home. ....the whole family gathers at the meal and start with the saying of grace..... the meal usually consists of roasted turkey, pumkin pie, mashed potatoes with gravy, sweet corn, etc.

I have switched to chicken this yr as Turkey didnt come out that good last year and the bird was too big...
so much left over food for waste...its not decided to go for something simple and  easy to make...with all relatives and friends ..some good time and good memories to keep!

There are also communal feeding of the poor and most foods are collected by various organizations from every home several days before the Thanksgiving......for this reason the food primarily consists of canned food. Though Thanksgiving is not really associated with the religious past of Christianity, it is the only non-holy day...

Thanksgiving is also a time for shopping and public parades in the US. Seasonal shopping season usually begins on friday next to Thanksgiving and is usually called the Black Friday...

Thanksgiving Day Grace
Thank thee, Lord
For all my many blessings,
thank thee, Lord.
I have bread,
thank thee, Lord.
for room and board.
thank thee, Lord.
for friends and family.
God takes such good care of me.

happy thanks giving to all!!

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

etiquettes 101

Thanksgiving this Thursday, gearing up for some parties as well as corporate lunches...
A popular saying   "Manners maketh man."off-course women too...
keeping in mind before heading for corporate lunches!

Booze patrol...
  • try to keep the drink in control ,usually two glasses of wine is sufficient unless the host compels...try holding the glass from bowl rather then avoids spilling..and gives a good look!

eating etiquette..
  • there should be no noise in the plates while eating or using silverware...try to avoid meat with bone and stick to boneless slurping at all.... and if Boss is paying for the lunch ..try keeping a tip individually folded on the table near your plate...a dollar will be good!
  • The fork is held in the left hand, the knife in the right to cut food and to help carry food to the fork. The fork is held, tines down, and the knife used to move food unto the fork or support food so the fork can pick it up. There is no shifting of cutlery.
  • On arrival in a restaurant or at a formal function give your coat to the waiter, never hang it on the back of your chair. If in doubt ask your host(ess).
  • When you wish to use the toilet, excuse yourself and leave quietly. Do not ask people where they are going if they excuse themselves :)

Things you should not do:-
  • Never chew with your mouth open.
  • Never talk with food in your mouth.
  • Never put too much food in your mouth.
  • Never mash or mix food on your plate.
  • Do not blow on hot food or drink.
  • Do not sip from a coffee spoon or teaspoon.
  • Never use your fingers to push food onto your spoon...(bad manners )

Now Moving towards holiday season with lot of parties around the corner..Thanks giving...just a week away with black Friday (so much fun) and then Christmas and new year in the end...So all excitement  for shopping and parties....
Few tips on Men's wear!!
Most of the time I notice..Men in ugly wears..or no dressing sense!! either the wife doesn't notice or the Guy is stubborn! either way!!
very few in the crowd have a perfect or the other thing is ignored or lack time says...its A okay!!
nope guys...its always a mark of respect for others when dressed appropriately for an occasion..if its a party, it has to be formal dressing even at somebody place..its a thumb rule!! no tees or denims...its looks ugly ..spoils the ambiance of the party.."not cultured" represents!!
1) of the most neglected part of men's wear...most of the time its mismatched..
..formal dressing requires ..formal shoes...with suits and dress pants..
don't go for pointy toes...unless you have to do Cha-cha-cha on dance floor...
square or round toes looks better then anything else!Cl arks (england) or Aldo (Italian) are very good for formal or brown color depending on the suit!dont buy dual color (its available)looks funny..even ankle length should be avoided..anything simple with classic cut looks more trendy!
2)socks..don't wear..printed socks...jus solid color that goes well with trousers, printed looks cheap..
3)pants...Dress pants pleated or flat front...depending on physique...Lean bodies should wear flat fronts ..but if you have beer belly ...wear a pleated one it camouflages the abdomen area!!..Cuffed pants look better for formal dressing with pleats..then regular dress pants....the fit should be perfect !!
4) belt..the belt should be thin instead of wide  specially kept for formal dressing ,no big giant buckles...jus plain seamless belts ..only fancy with logos look good on denims ..
5)Shirt...Button down collard shirt with tie or if without tie then a formal silk scarf on the neck ...if you want to avoid both then wear a shirt with band style small collar underneath a suit...which looks formal...or very small collard shirt giving a tuxedo look!But formal!!
 Cuff links...they look good ...if its a banquet hall party...more gathering...its stands out!
6) Tie..don't go for conventional designs like stripes or dots ..something in solid  with contrast try wearing a silver tie with black shirt,or something like orange tie with  brown shirt or olive green with beige shirt... make it contrast with lighter color shirts which compliments the coat...Bold pattens on ties give a festive look...depending on age and style to carry!!(paisley or abstract patterns are in vogue)
Knot...the tie knot should be a double knot ..which looks trendy...with a dimple :)
7)Coat... I would say depending on physique... tall and lean people go for three button coat its looks smart ,a two button as per the comfort...Always get a suit advice from an expert (available in stores) for a perfect fit.
 Bold colors in suits or contrast looks good too but it depends on age and physique...again..similar color in suit gives a lean look rather then contrast..
bold colors or stripes or anything jazzy should be for an age appropriate ....that's more for college going or university students or prom parties be wise in choosing colors and co-ordinating it well!!

Hairstyle...neat and clean with gelled look for evening wears...short and crisp lines...and good  altitude with a pleasant and courteous smile... which reflects the confidence and a radiant personality!

Friday, November 19, 2010

nikke Haley..aka Nimrata Randhawa!

 Passing through the end ..the last phase of the year..some women showed up some major achievements on International platform...being an immigrant ...made up to this level is that's what I call a gutsy women!!....Nikki Haley...
one more Indian family that came into limelight!!
Nikki Haley South Carolina Governor Elect.
Nikki Haley (née Nimrata Randhawa, born January 20, 1972) is an elected official from the U.S. state of South Carolina currently serving in the South Carolina House of Representatives Lexington County...

Nikki Haley was born in Bamberg, South Carolina. Her parents Dr. Ajit and Raj Randhawa are Indian Punjabi Sikh immigrants from Amritsar and she has an older brother Mitti, sister Simran Singh, and younger brother Charan. She went to Clemson University and majored in Accounting and then joined the FCR Corporation before joining her mother's business in 1994. The family business grew to a multi million dollar company.

She became treasurer of the National Association of Women Business Owners in 2003 and president in 2004. She chaired the Lexington Gala to raise funds for the local hospital. She also serves on the Lexington Medical Foundation, Lexington County Sheriff’s Foundation, West Metro Republican Women, President of the South Carolina Chapter of the National Association of Women Business Owners, Chairman for 2006 Friends of Scouting Leadership Division campaign and is a member of the Rotary Club in Lexington...

She has served as secretary of the Medical, Military, Public and Municipal Affairs committees. She also was elected chairman of the Freshman caucus in 2005 and elected as a Majority whip in the South Carolina General Assembly. She was the only freshman legislator named to a whip spot.
On May 14, 2009, Nikki Haley announced she is running for the Republican nomination for Governor of South Carolina in 2010

...Key issues
Leadership: “In order to really lead with the Legislature you have to be predictable. … In order to do that, you have to have the right staff. I would much rather deal with what’s wrong with a bill and make it right as opposed to waiting for it to get to the floor and just saying no to it.”

Tax reform: “We have the most band-aided tax structure in the country. We need to look at every single tax. We need to look at every single fee … and we need to look at every single exemption. The first thing we need to do is to eliminate the small business income tax.”

Roll call voting and increased government transparency: “Bills were being passed and legislators were not putting their name with their vote. As an accountant, all I saw were dollar signs. They were growing government and you couldn’t see the spending habits of your lawmakers. … I think you should know who voted for it and against it.”

Personal life..

(Nikki Haley's Sikh wedding picture)
Haley was raised in a Sikh family, and identifies herself as a Christian, and sits on the board for Mt. Horeb, United Methodist Church, Med mission. On September 6, 1996 she married Michael Haley, in a Methodist church ceremony...and later with a Sikh ceremony too.. Michael is a federal employee with the United States Department of the Army and an officer in the South Carolina Army National Guard. Together they have two children, Rena and Nalan.
Mitti (nikki's older brother)is an active duty officer who has served in the U.S. Army for the past 20 years...

..Not many women reach at this level and have a mind of their own with no strings attached..Nikki Haley is one of them who has done this.... which makes us proud!

I condemn all those comments made on Nikki that she has embraced Christianity and left her religion and other things regarding India..I would say one thing...her Name will be Nikki forever (given by her parents),,and her parents will be  Indians  forever as we are...and not to forget..all girls change their last names once they get married... why is she singled out? just because she is Nikki Haley...??
I know many Sikh women who are married to Muslim guys...or Arabic's or Christians....they are converted too...and there are many guys  converted to Sikhs too..I see them in Gurudwara or temple..
.JUST FOR SAKE OF THEIR LOVE!!(they did not change for Career opportunities)if that is the case...

..As long as its a good human being with good intentions of work for making world a better place to live it hardly matters.....

Thursday, November 18, 2010

Sleep deprivation!

..Coming back from was a long day again....with days getting shorter...and darker my sleep deprivation was at its peak....I had seen people sleeping on their way....but now happened with me...I stopped at the red light ..and slept!! my foot resting on break....but then I heard honking sound....jus as if somebody pulled me out of dreams ...I got up ..and pressed accelerator and moved....It was very embarrassing moment and very dangerous at the same time.....never thought life would be so very busy and sleep deprived for me!!!
..Looking few years back my own kingdom in India,I always over slept..and nobody even dare to wake me up... the maid had strict orders.."queen is sleeping"..then I slept after lunch also...."my beauty sleep".... Mom always pissed of with my sleep obsessions Said"You have come to this world only to sleep"I  was undisputed "Sleeping Beauty"both of my elder brothers made fun of me...saying" people who like to sleep ..miss all the good things in life"I always refuted back saying"I Don't Care"
Some fond memories....about my obsession of sleep...when I..just passed out of university...
 I finished my masters  and came back from University..after two years I was at home ..I was so relieved and happy to catch my sleep...I slept most of the time...afternoon siesta was the best part....nobody disturbed me even if it was ,totally relaxed ..retired tensions now...I thought ..

...I saw a vacancy in a paper one day....for a post of lecturer ... in one of the reputed Colleges...I applied and went for was boys college..the principal was impressed ..told me to join as soon as possible...not sure ..whether I want to work...coz I was having some good time at home...I joined for some extra  money...and few hours would give me good break ....
Now that I was so much into habit of sleeping in afternoon I couldn't control my sleep......we had finals for undergrads in our college  those days..I was on supervision duty...from two pm to five pm...(those were my peak hours of sleeping )...
I was sitting on chair...and felt I would I got up and started walking in the rows ...checking all the was in jus a blink of moment I fell on one of the desks..(It was the uncontrollable sleep)I heard some student saying(mam digg paye)"mam fell down"... the professors came running ..towards me....I got up ..saying sorry !!I made an excuse..try not to disturb the students...
I was sitting on the chair after that ..all Senior professors advising me"Mam you take care of your health ,and see a doctor as soon as possible " you are not well and we don't want to burden you with loads of work at this age...I said"Sure" smiling at everyone but knew very well what was wrong with me!!
this was the most embarrassing part of my life when I fell asleep while walking.....after that I decided not to sleep after my life...and gave up this habit!!
....Sleep is very important ,but pattern of sleep also makes a difference if sleeps at same time or duration its very difficult to get out of that habit.....since the body demands sleep at  that time...I learnt it in a hard way...

I sleep at least seven to eight hours at night ..which is significantly a good sleep ...but working and stress sometimes makes it harder which I guess takes a form of Fatigue and then sleep!!
but I would say if ever you feel tired while driving or sleepy ...get off the road and take a nap at a parking lot before you drive ......
otherwise the results can be Fatal!!

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

parody .....Bill Gates


Billl To Pagal Hai……(.Bill is mad, )
Bill Deewana Hai…..(bill is Crazy)
Achhe Bure Softwares Banata Hai Yahi,(makes best and worst of software's)
Hasata He Yahi, Rulata Hai,(makes us smile,makes us cry)
Usme Phir ‘Bugs’ Daalta Hain Wohi,(puts virus in software's)
Aur Solutions Bhi Nikalta Hai,(gets us solutions too)
Bill To Pagal Hai…….(bill is mad )
Bill Deewana Hai…..(bill is crazy)
Is Bill Ki Baton Mein Jo Aate Hain,(those who gets into his softwares)
Woto Oolloo Ban Jate Hain,(he is fooling them)
Software To Dusare Bhi Banate Hain,(others make softwares too)
Banake Magar Kho Jate Hain,(but are lost ,once the new version is out)
Hmmm Bill To Pagal Hai…….(bill is Mad)
Bill Deewana Hai…..(bill is crazy)
Softwares Ko Main Na Pehchanoonga,(I wont ask about software)
Working Bhi Na Mein Uski Janoonga,(I wont ask its working)
Microsoft Ka Logo Bass Mein Dekhoonga,(I will jus see the Microsoft logo)
Bill Jo Kahega Wohi Manoonga.(I will jus listen to bill)

Bill To Pagal Hai…….( bill is mad)
Bill Ka Kehna Hum Sab Maane,(everyone listens to Bill)
Bill Na Kisi Ki Maane,(bill doesn't need advice)
Uski Strategy Jaan Li Hamne,(we know his strategy)
Ek Wohi Na Jaane.(but he doesn't know his own strategies)
Bill To Pagal
Hai…….(bill is mad ,bill is crazy)
Bill Deewana Hai…..

Chhoro Ye Bill Sab Kahaniya,(leave all these bill stories)
Bugs Ki Hain Sab Nishaniya,(these softwares are having those bugs for sure)
Programmers Ki Sari Pareshaniya,(hard time for programmers)
Is Bill Ki Hain Ye Meherbaniya.(thanks to bill)
Hmmm Bill To Pagal Hai….(coz Bill is mad,bill is crazy)
Bill Deewana Hai…..

(I pity this Bill) hope you like the parody!

Saturday, November 13, 2010


Words or lingo is something which can destroy or build its wise to watch your words before the shooters are out...I am surprised to see ,how people behave publicly when its a tussle between two countries or I would say neighboring countries..I would not mention the name of any country here as every individual is different and upbringing is as per environment and situation...why I am mentioning all this? its weird to even talk ..but with complete stranger ....when you meet ,not knowing about the origin of the person how can you talk like that??
This lady came for some work..she picked up a topic of India .and started talking about India and media...(she was not an Indian).so all BS(bull shit )she said that she could think of!!!
what she said?you folks must be thinking???she said
"Indian girls are shameless creatures...their movies show all nonsense dressing sense among Indian women....they believe in exposing and media shows all malnutrition people."".I was listening quietly wanted to see what was in her mind and what length she could go....
"look at the media ...bunch of idiots ..they think Indian women is very smart liberated not knowing they are whores.. they give that kinda look.."she said...for fame they do anything!!
I got up  rolling up sleeves...(I thought...high time let me give her some  "prasad"..the code word we used in the university when guys messed with us)
Oh .okay...I said" but then what are you?... look deep inside yourself ..all that malice you have ..overflowing out of you..what  made you say this?? and which movies are you watching ?? ...that you have so much experience of whores and other stuff....I wanted  to show her the door...but she looked at me and said"are you Indian?? yes!!.. do I look like a french women ??and what are  you blabbering?.most .Indian women wear decent clothes ..and most of the movies  are nice ...don't forget Slum dog millionaire or other movies nominated for Oscar...and with Media ..its always shows something that's over exaggerated ..I mean...why are you so pissed off with India...its politically motivated things on media...don't go for that!!! she kept quite..saying " I didn't know you are from India"..may be she was pretending....she said ..the media shows otherwise how do we know!!
Media shows lot of things about US or other countries too movies and other stuff ..but reality is different .country is made of every kind of people good bad or religion says to kill people...and as a matter of fact  ...its always the reality that matters!
she left quietly ...without uttering a word
living in US with different nationalities..where every race is there ...think before you utter a word against a nation or religion...its not degrading any body's nation or religion its degrading yourself it shows your character ...I was sad but really felt that day God has made some real good samples in this world no wonder why we see some samples being publicly insulted or deported back to their countries...with a label
"thanks..with no returns"

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Women power...

women all over world has made a mark in every field needless to mention the forces....I have put some pictures of some smart women from services..please vote for the best picture of your choice!!

Sunday, November 7, 2010

"face in the crowd"

...Its been crazy week..first of all ..."happy Diwali to all of you" and hope all of you had lots of fun with family and friends...
we had a diwali party at of our friends place...which was fun with food and friends ...all over US and Canada.....with individual performances by some of our much energy and liveliness I was in fact surprised ...after is this possible?? was friday night(tgif) but everyone geared up....

    (this is not ashika)
Now the interesting part....this was a gathering of almost hundred people.. at the party...I could see lot of unknown faces ...but then there was dramtic entry of this pretty young girl which made heads turn...I was standing at the entrance ..talking to someone she said " Hi" to me I smiled .. I could see Ajay one of family friends son accompanying her followed by our friend raj who came with them...she introduced me "Ashika" from Toronto med-school student ..Ajay's girlfriend..I looked at ajay who was giving a naughty smile to everyone :)
and to describe the gurl..she might be twenty years or ajay is in med-school too.."Ashika"very fair in complexion..chiseled look...with petite structure..wearing  black dress with silver accessories .".jus out of bollywood "(very close to the picture above) ...I could see everyone smiling when she was introduced by Raj....I mean raj is a great mom :)who supportingly introduced her to everyone...and ajay following her....looked like a scene of indian movie "Bobby"...(Sweet)
Ajay and ashika were together all the time....all other teenagers were jealous of ajay seems..he was spending time with this beautiful companion and nothing else mattered for him...
anyways the girl disappeared with ajay after sometime......may be they wanted some space and time for themselves..
the party was getting better..I met raj ..who was talking to some other ladies..saying..".times have changed..and kids will like to bring their friends for company to parties(hmm ...I thought trying to justify raj?)and I dont mind seriously ...(I thought ..dont you dare have no choice)and we are not living in a village where people gossip for small little things..raj said!!.( I thought..Raj whom are you fooling? we are still indian by all means)but I kept smiling Sayin sure!! she looked at me ...reading my thoughts...hey harman dont you agree with my opinion? I said ..its ok...but what if your daughter brings a bf  for company to one of the parties?she said Oh!! amrita has a whole bunch of friends here in MI..its only ajay who has few friends!..oh yes I said yea!!(luck boy ajay)!(I generally don't argue in a gatherings..).
.one of the couple started dancing ..on one peppy number...I smiled at the funny moves they to controll my laughter I went upstairs ...( the party was at lower level)...I could see ashika and ajay sitting together and smiling....pretending not to see anything I took some sparkling water and came downstairs!!! was an open dance..and  went all night ...
they took out harmonium and sat on floor now .... kinda of "mehfil"and everyone took out their slips, those who wanted to sing and participate.....I thought at one am what kinda new programme they are dinner was served after midnight and it was long day to sit after one am though I would love to  ...hear all nice people who had specially prepared themselves for this night and their choice of ghazal and shiyari..but with little kids. and my hubby who came from toronto after five hours drive it was very we left ...I could see most of the people leaving with little kids..
Mom n dad came at four am and told us it was very nice ...everyone sang and only senior citizen were sitting till four am..all young crowd left ..they were tired... but  it seems"Old  is Gold" they said!!