Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Deal!


..."Seal the Deal" is a very common term used in Corporates ...But what if its used in Matrimony...
kinda surprising??
Dowry system is very popular in India...it was there ever since we are Born but the standards have been raised or..Greed has grown with inflation or Peer pressure.....
I was actually surprised when one of my online friends who is all set to get married ,looking for a girl in matrimonial sites or otherwise ...told me that he got an offer for fifteen lacs,Cash as deal with rest of the stuff ...as the girl is not so Good looking...so the offer is made by girls parents and not him...
When I asked him ..why he is stooping so low?kinda shaking his Soul,I actually showed him the mirror!! .. money for a partner of lifetime ,I asked ..he said ...its not him ..but his people at home who are interested ..looking at the money...but he refused as he is not interested in girl or money....
this is not the first time I heard this....there are numerous stories ...
Gauri was one of the girls in our neighborhood in India...got married where the deal was set to twenty two lacs...it happened recently.... the Guy is frm Gurgoan in IBM and his family has actally priced him in the Market...Gauri is good looking girl working in a bank as ABM ...but her parents said...We had to make a deal elsewhere too...so at least these people are educated..
I would ask here from girls parents...
what kind of eduction is this?
1)Why is there so much desperation...to get rid of your own kid?
I mean same amount of money spent on her studies or some better professional course ..where she is self sufficient ...and lay ground rules for getting your child married to some decent people... so much greed..what guarantee is there that these people will be satisfied with twenty two lacs....
2) why do we forget that we are the people who make laws of society and later repent on them...no wonder why female infanticide is there....Coz Greed cannot be fulfilled and people are gender biased now....
And guys when you ask for Dowry ,think how can you have a peaceful married life ..where one partner will always have hatred for squeezing money out of others pocket...
..We actually give Ideas to people that this is possible and marriages can be easy..in this form...

its a SHAME!!!

6 comments:

Uma said...

its sad such dowry system such exists.. but its changing.. dowry is no longer the basis of a marriage proposal..

Bikramjit Singh Mann said...

sad sad situation things have worsened .. now they are paying 10 - 15 lakhs if you can bring there kid as a spouce or partner if you get a student VISA.. marriage is much later ...

Sahithi Pallavi said...

So Soo Sad..But its really better these days. Hope soon we will completely get rid of.!

Harman said...

@UMA...I wish it wud change...but all I know its really a bad scenario!

@Bikram..Yes..I know that too...there many more things...also expected...
SAD

Sahithi pallavi...Lets hope so..good for human kind!

Zeenu said...

If the same things female asks,it considered bad or she is high headed.

A said...

No dowry for me. I did not ask and did not get. Things are changing in cities pretty fast these days. I think young girls need to stand up against dowry and guys need to become real man not....(you know what I mean)